Honest, Open, Understood Communication with Questions of Clarification: Am I hearing what you are actually saying or am I interpreting from my observations, my experience, or my _____________ ?
When we communicate with eachother there are so many interpretations of even one word, one phrase, one sentence let alone a whole conversation, negotiation, speech, presentation or _____________, that we can have a difficult time understanding each other due to language, tone, inflection, feelings, what we bring with us to the conversation including angst, frustration, grief, confusion, sleep deprivation, guilt, exhaustion, preudice, or anything that relates or has nothing to do with the curent topic, subject matter, presenter, interviewer, friend, associate, employee, boss, or anybody that we may be sitting with or about to talk to or have communication with or are interpreting for or translating for or with. There's so much that is going onin our daily lives, plus the accumulation of our experiences, the daily grind, unfairness, new laws, old rules or laws, attraction, distaste, interpretation of what a person's wrapper or the don't judge a book by it's cover analogy is going on, where we are meeting or communicating, the subject matter may or may not be ________ ( are we informed of this topic or subject as fully as we can be, was this just handed to me, do I have the language to effectively communicate this, do I have any prejudices effecting or affevting me or my judgment or ________ that could effect the outcome or interpretetaion of this, is this an Old subject, is thias a disagreement, is their beef here, is someting unacknowledged, unvalidated, are there amends that could be made, am I the right person for this _______[assignment, job, case, client, person, subject, place, _______] as a person can hopefully be alowed to self assess whether this is the ________ for themselves or fill out something that tells them if it is not. A judge and or a lwyer can recuse themselves from something and if they can why not ourselves. Doctors are hopefully becoming aware of the power of I don't know and I cannot be expected to now everything even in one field of medicine for their is too much progress, history, changes, additions, research, and more that a doctor can hopefully feel the freedom now to say I don't know and I can either inquire, research, refer, request, or further try to help get you information, or a different professional or clinic that specializes or books that have more in depth answers reccomended by or written by as well somebody who is knowledgable in this area.
Communication with different: cultures, genders, races, nations, countries, infrastructures, structure, security, language, customs, experiences, spacing, a bow or a handshake (used to be can be something to go huh, what is thw evolution as I do not see any insult in this just differences or evolutions of business, culture, experiences, dominance struggles, _____) regional words or concepts we may be unfamiliar with, misinterpreted _______, purposely misinformed as a form of insult and or sabotage (even within your _________), purposes, intended outcomes, goals, visions, dreams, ideals, moral compass, spirit of, levels of or definitions of __________ ( independence, integrity, morals, tenets, principals, results, laws, rules, responsibilities,) because if we do not define or have the same or similar _____________ our starting or beginning may take a longer period of getting to know each other and a futher defining of the previous to the level where we can feel comfortable proceding to the meat or ____________ or heart of the _____________.
Miscommunication, misinterpretation, misunderstandings, and more can account for over 70% of the world's conflicts of any size*****. This means that there has been potentially losses of previously and possibly still uncalculated measures*. Most conflicts, fights, battles, wars, and ____________ stem from lack of something like medical supplies or medical personnel, clean water, food, housing, education, commerce , sustainability, transportation, access to __________, lack of government or healthy communication with a governing rule that can listen and hear their populations or are allowed to, environmental ______________, depletion of ____________, there's also toxicity, disease, pollution, civil rights violations, rations, pestilence, hygiene, medical, dental, recovery care, unneccesary suffering, pilfering, theft, greed, unfairness, predjudice, inequality, lack of structure, lack of authority and or laws, rules etcetera that are punished if broken, sabotage, burglary, identity ____________, misappropriated ___________ (blame, guilt, judgement, awards, grants, resources, trade, etcetera). So many conflicts that grew into more even War have many contributing factors and no way can you blame 2 countries even if it was or seemed to be just 2 countries who were or are fighting. Just like an abusive relationship there are other people, places, things, ____________, communities, neighborhoods, professionals, inputs, outputs, side ________, beefs, contributors to the relationship, how it bacme or the individuals became who they are, how they are _______ to eachother or the outside world, who they believe or who benefits from how they are that keep them or incite them even catalyst a "episode" even that happens in public, gossip about them, blame them and all the while are fostering the unhealthiness or worse. There's no bully or abusive interaction or communication or relationship or ___________ that doesn't have contributing factors from outside the 2 people who are seemingly the only two people involved.
When I said last year that there were 7 more signals, communications, something from different countries I never saud their governments or blamed anybody specifically I said that there wer 7 more countries minmum, meaning for example (made up in the moment)an email sent via McDonalds wifi in Jordan, involved in every single remaining top secret, government file that Cleaning our slates does not mean covering up, hiding, erasing, dispelling, recoding, reassigning blame elsewhere, pointing, guilting or anything else! IT MEANS to take responsibility for whatever it is, uncover it, excavate it, dust it off, un camoflage it, decipher it, take it out of the fIF file or database and go hmmmm, help with it, acknowledge its existence, stop spinning it, or migrating* it, stop buring it or pairing* it, stop just excusing it actually learn the whys, hows, causes, mishaps, context, origins, and everything else that can help even you understand how choices, decisions, communications, options, ultimatums, gauntlets, threats, punishments, deprivations, deaths, expenditures, numbers, commerce, business, travels and more were effected even in other places around the planet. Taking responsibility does not neccesarily mean that I am responsible or soley responsible for _____________, it means I will take this as I was in charge or ___________, I was part of ___________, I am now in charge of or am part of my predeccssor or my decades ago predeccesor or whoever it is or was ( and yes you can have whoever that is out in the world, injail, prison, even communications from their past or before death have a role in taking responsibility, it speaks to the person's authority, honor, veracity, context of time, place, situation and how informed they were or were not, investigate delays, inability to reach or communicate with _____________, inegrity, bravery, courage, and more to shoulder or be the rock or refuge or front face of ____________ whoever they were or are a part of , to let them speak of it and say the truth, there's recovery and redemption for anybody, any place, any people, any government, any company anybody can turn the tides, anybody can be the voice of reason or hope or forgiveness or responsibility, or authority and ANYBODY can stand with them and share it as well, nobody has to take something this big by themselves, allowing places, people etcetera to know may be a viable way to have shared responsibility even if they may not have been deemed worthy before, there may be someone now or somwone who tried to communicate and or mitigate something before, during, or sfter the fact. Acknowledgemnet even of something centuries or more old is difficult and yet who are we if we cannot look back and be honest about how something we did, said, side sat in, profitted off of, or ___________ is still affecting or effecting evena person, or our relationship with them or their country or peoples or ____________. It is never too late to say I apologize and mean it, To say what was done to formally acknowledge it in public if that is healthiest for them, to lsten and hear in order to Validate those who were and or are effected by it, and then to make amends with whoever or wherever it is. WHat is your __________('s) Legacy?
When we communicate with eachother I came up with based on my own misinterpretations, my own views or feelings or _____________ or misunderstandings of personal communications with friends, family, professionals and more.
When you said ________________________, did you mean _________________?
as well as anything to do with tone, body language, inflection, emphasis, pauses, feelings , decibal levels or loudness or quietness whatever it is that cause us to personalize, or assign meaning where they may be none actually meant.
So somebody says
I am never going to listen to that ___________ again they don't know what they are talking about, I don't think they have any idea about what ___________ actually means or means to me....
[ok, when you said I am never going to listen to that __________ again does that mean that you are upset in the moment or that you have had an experience with _________ that has led you to a conclusion, DO they know the subject matter, all of it or was this something added or froma question or , just trying to see if there's a reason as it's not often an excuse since they could have said I don't really understand the ? or the subject matter or I am not prepared to answer this I would have to think about it, because you seemed to like this person, Organization or whatever it is? Maybe they aren't the origin? Maybe your onto something.]
A DIFFERENT WAY OF GETTING THERE( SINCE THIS MAY BE AN IMPORTANT TOPIC WHETHER THE SOURCE OF INFORMATION IS OR IS NOT ANYMORE):
What happened?(is my response)
Is there something that was upsetting about what they said, how they said it or ___________ ( DOES IT CONFLICT WITH YOUR KNOWLEDGE OR EXPERIENCES OR SOMEONE OR SOMEWHERE THAT YOU LEARNED FROM)?
Is the person actually life experienced in this or is this a more researched, studied, or school taught thing, because they can have good ideas, input, stratgies etceterea that can help they may just need to say how they are knowledgable in the subject matter ?
Never doesn't always come up for you or not often, so what's the never related to?
Is there anything that contributed to this level of upset as sometimes our cumulative expereineces even of the day, or week, or echoes of the past can ring now for us?
A chain analysis could or might be helpful if they are ina open enough mood or __________ that this is a type of self assesment as to what led up to the amount of emotion within this one statement ( so it's a feel it out type of thing even giving personal example of when this may have or did work for you, otherwise you can kind of like the questions above walk it back with them to where they can identify other underlying factors, even a fight with a roomate, a phone call from _______, or anything else).
decoding, interpreting, figuring out, deciphering, translating communications with eachother are complex, complicated, simple, fraught with ________, challenging, problematic, winnable, achieveable, negotiable, and ultimately doable if we tread carefully and realize that all of us bring ____________ with us wherever we go: our day, our schedule, our and others demands, a timeclock potentially, our hangups, our beefs, our _____________ and conversely our talents, abilities, willingness, patience, ecumenical, fair, positive outlook, our past successes, our , knowledge, our experience, our ability to weather a or the storm even in the face of one or it, our ability to try to see things from their or a different perspective, our resourcefulness, our __________. This means that no matter how challenging something may or might be we can if prepared, informed, and open can navigate life's communications in a way that we actually listen and hear without personalizing or _____________ something that maybe comes through or is maybe something we are not used to, lack of facial responsiveness or a lot of body language or talk, different cultural norms or ______________. Communications with ourselves, others, and the world can have outcomes expected, unexpected, predictable and not, the more we try to understand ourselves , each other , and the world around us the more we can move around without much upset, or ____________ even to ourselves. Be carefule, gentle, and firm with your communications with people and you will go further then you may have thought possible.
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Jade Raven Pelton
July 2024
Denver Colorado
